Were David and Jonathan Gay?
In an attempt to reclaim their religion from homophobia, someGLBT
people have sought representations of same-sex love in the Bible. One of
the most often-cited "gay couples" is David, the Old Testament
hero, and Jonathan, son of King Saul.
Some three thousand years ago, at the end of the Bronze Age, David, a
young shepherd from Bethlehem, made a name for himself by slaying Goliath,
a Philistine giant, with a blow from his slingshot. David initially came
to the court of Saul, first king of the Israelites, to perform as a
musician, but soon gained recognition as a soldier.
King Saul’s son, Jonathan, was several years older than David and a
commander in his father’s army. Himself known for his prowess in battle,
Jonathan took a liking to the young newcomer, and the two became fast
friends. "And it came to pass," the Bible says, "that the
soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him
as his own soul" (I Samuel 18:1).
According to the Bible, God chose David over Saul’s son and heir to
be the second king of the Israelites. While Jonathan accepted this fate,
King Saul berated his son for his relationship with David, accusing him of
placing friendship over family loyalty and his future kingdom. Saul also
became increasingly jealous of David’s growing military success and
plotted his demise. In addition, argue some gay commentators such as Andre
Gide, Saul was consumed with lust for the handsome young hero.
Jonathan learned of his father’s plans and was determined to warn
David. Fearful of Saul’s wrath, David hid himself in a field near the
palace. Jonathan devised a code whereby he would alert David whether he
could safely return or should flee. The two men made a covenant, promising
that they and their descendents would remain friends forever. Upon
parting, "they kissed one another, and wept one with another, until
David exceeded" (I Samuel 20:41).
Jonathan and Saul eventually died together in battle against the
Philistines. Upon hearing the news, David mourned Jonathan’s passing
with the lament: "I am distressed for thee, my brother Jonathan: very
pleasant hast thou been unto me: thy love to me was wonderful, passing the
love of women" (II Samuel 1:26).
While the Bible’s two books of Samuel provide considerable detail
about the friendship between David and Jonathan, they do not reveal
whether the two men had a sexual relationship, and the question is debated
to this day.
"There can be little doubt, except on the part of those who
absolutely refuse to believe it, that there existed a homosexual
relationship between Jonathan and David," writes author Tom Horton,
claiming that the ancient Israelites were certainly influenced by the
surrounding Mediterranean cultures in which homosexual relations were
common and sexual liaisons between warriors were admired. "One cannot
read [the account of their relationship] without discerning that Jonathan
was the love of David’s life," concurs the Rev. Nancy Wilson, a
member of the Metropolitan Community Church Board of Elders.
"Centuries of homophobic Biblical interpretations have kept them in
the closet too long!"
Some have gone so far as to argue that the covenant between David and
Jonathan was equivalent to a marriage. A similar claim has been made about
David’s ancestor, Ruth, and her mother-in-law, Naomi. Ruth’s vow of
fidelity—"for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest,
I will lodge" (Ruth 1:16)—is used today in both gay commitment
ceremonies and heterosexual marriages.
On the other side of the debate, commentators deny that the
relationship between David and Jonathan had an erotic component. James
Patrick Holding argues that the assumption that the two men were lovers is
a product of "jaundiced Western eyes." In that era, he says,
declarations of passionate feelings and physical expressions of affection
were common between platonic friends. "Put your head on the breast of
another man today here in America, and the jokes will fly," he
writes. "But in the ancient East, not so; and even today, such
affectionate displays are typical on that side of the world."
Regardless of whether David and Jonathan had a sexual relationship,
they were not "gay" by today’s definition. David had eight
wives—including one of Jonathan’s sisters—and the Biblical tale of
his adulterous relationship with Bathsheba indicates that he was sexually
attracted to women, not simply married out of a sense of obligation or
political ambition. Furthermore, the notion of "homosexual,"
"bisexual," and "heterosexual" individuals did not
exist in Old Testament times. "David was not a ‘homosexual’
because he loved Jonathan, or Jonathan because he loved David,"
writes Horner. Rather, he says, they were "simply well-rounded
men" who acted within the standards of a society that accepted
different kinds of sexual behavior.
While it is impossible to know whether David and Jonathan were lovers
or simply close comrades, their relationship has proved inspirational to
many gay men. And David—whom the Bible describes as being "of a
beautiful countenance and goodly to look upon" (I Samuel 16:12)—has
been portrayed as an icon of male beauty in art and literature throughout
history.
Liz Highleyman is a freelance writer and editor who has written widely
on health, sexuality, and politics. She can be reached care of Letters
from CAMP Rehoboth or at