Growing up...
In the week proceeding the Memorial Day weekend (and squeezed between
Letters deadlines) the
CAMP
Rehoboth Community Center moved into its new home on the other side of the
CAMP courtyard. Though construction workers and painters and CAMP Rehoboth
volunteers were still swarming all over the building, the time had come—we
had to move. Six days later we hosted the first official CAMP Rehoboth
event in the new Community Center space—the annual HEART of the
Community art preview party.
Sometime during that event, as I stood out in the beautiful afternoon
sunshine reminiscing about the early days of CAMP Rehoboth, I suddenly
experienced one of those little memory explosions that seem to flash
sometimes through the brain, revealing in an instant a whole new
perspective on some aspect of our lives. I felt as if I had suddenly taken
a step out of the present and was able, for a brief moment, to peer all
the way back down the long corridor that is the life of CAMP Rehoboth.
I
n
the fall of 1990, I clearly remember another moment that struck like a
thunderbolt. Steve and I had just completed our third Sundance and had
spent the summer in Joyce Felton’s apartment behind the Blue Moon. One
day I noticed the property at 39 Baltimore Avenue for what felt like the
first time. I say felt, because Baltimore Avenue had been an important
part of our lives for a decade, and I had walked by that same property for
many years. But there it was, empty—and with a big "for rent"
sign out front. In that moment something in the back of my mind clicked
and I considered for the first time that Rehoboth could be more than just
a summer place for us and that it might be time to think about leaving New
York. A few weeks later, Joyce was visiting us in NYC, and when we talked
about moving to Rehoboth full time, that property came to mind.
And so, with the first ideas of CAMP swirling around in my head, Steve
and I rented the entire
property—apartment,
stores, and courtyard—and set about trying to get something started. It
was a foolish venture, of course, and very expensive, but before we gave
up the master lease we at least got Lambda Rising into one of the stores
and a small café was begun in half of the space that is now Lori’s
Café. Most importantly, CAMP Rehoboth was organized and occupied the tiny
space that today is the other half of Lori’s.
A couple of years later, CAMP Rehoboth moved into the slightly larger
space in the back corner of the courtyard and remained there through the
rest of the 90s. In 2002, CAMP Rehoboth purchased the property at 39
Baltimore Avenue, and this past January, the adjacent property at 37
Baltimore Avenue, as well—which, of course brings us to the present, and
our current renovation and upcoming construction plans.
What happened in that revelatory moment I mentioned in an earlier
paragraph, was the awareness that CAMP Rehoboth is growing up to be
exactly what it was meant to be. Over the last 15 years the organization
has moved through various stages of development—much as a child grows to
adulthood.
In a way, the original vision of CAMP Rehoboth is like human DNA,
containing all the information a body needs in order to grow up. All that
remains is the time to grow up in—the time to fully become all that we
are capable of being.
Next year, CAMP Rehoboth will turn "sweet 16," and perhaps we
will celebrate with a whole new kind of "coming out" party. We
are a unique community with an organization unlike any other. We have
connections all up and down the east coast and beyond. Our vision for the
Community Center is to be the "heart of the community," but just
how far our community is capable of reaching remains to be seen.
I’ve felt for a long time that CAMP Rehoboth was some kind of
training ground—years ago we even had "Boot CAMP" t-shirts
made—and that it was preparing us to deal with the world around us in
new and different ways. Maybe it’s simply teaching us how to grow up and
take creative responsibility for the world around us—for the community
in which we live.
GLBT people make great mediators, artists, and teachers (to name a few)
because of our unique place in the world, and because of our ability to
see from a viewpoint that is not limited to the cultural definitions of
masculine and feminine. We have gifts to share with the world around us—all
humans do, of course—the hard part is sometimes just accepting that, and
allowing it to happen. A part of the mission statement of the CAMP
Rehoboth Community Center is to make it a gift to the greater community
around us. Perhaps a part of our own growing up is also just to accept
that and to allow it to happen.
In the next few weeks, new signs for the Community Center will show our
house and heart logo over the vertical stripes of a rainbow. In a way it
creates an up arrow with a heart in it, and seems a good sign that we are
indeed growing up into our dream of creating a more positive world for us
all.
In a little book that contains my poetry, there is an unfinished
fragment written shortly before CAMP Rehoboth came into existence. Sitting
here in our new CAMP Rehoboth "home" next to the Blue Moon on
Baltimore Avenue,
I can’t help but marvel at how well it seems to capture our current
situation....
Somewhere over the rainbow
and beyond the moon
A house awaits
with open doors
and windows wide
There dwells the spirits
of wondrous stars
a family full of light
Music/Laughter
dancing feet
The gentle words
of spoken hearts...
(unfinished, Rehoboth Beach, September 3, 1989)
Murray Archibald is President of the Board of Directors of CAMP
Rehoboth.
The illustrations are details from the 2005 Heart of the Community
paintings by (from left) Terry Isner, Ward Ellinger. Murray Archibald, and
Ronald Butt and Liza Fleming.