Mat Time: Grabbing Wrestling Opportunities
Grgur Drazoevic loves to wrestle. The 30-year-old Croatian also
kickboxes and dabbles in martial arts. But at the sports clubs he goes to
in Split and Zagreb, he’s still not out as a gay wrestler.
Out to a few friends and other gay wrestlers after he competed in
Munich (placing fourth) at 2004’s EuroGames, Drazoevic will take one
more big step out of the closet when he competes in Gay Games VII’s
wrestling tournament, to be held this summer in Chicago (July 15-22).
GGWC’s president Gene Dermody, a five-time Gay Games medalist in the
sport, got the club to fundraise and fully support Drazoevic’s trip to
Chicago, where he will wrestle in the open (age 35 and under) 163 lb.
weight class.
In his native town of Split, the local wrestling club was mostly
university students. "It wasn’t a popular sport," says
Drazoevic.
"When I was a boy, I looked in books, and got a strong feeling
that I want to wrestle one day."
While he was still in grade school, the Serbo-Croatian War interrupted
his entire family’s life, and the lives of millions of others.
"Just like lots of my generation, there wasn’t a sports life,"
he says. "All sports clubs were closed. Everything was stopped."
By 1998, after having lived in Zagreb while attending the local
university, Drazoevic found three schools for Greco-Roman wrestling and
sometimes practiced three times a week.
But Drazoevic hasn’t told his fellow classmates, and his gay friends
don’t wrestle.
"Nobody in the wrestling club yet knows that I am gay," he
says. "So, after this, I think I am the only out gay wrestler in
Croatia."
Drazoevic says there isn’t much of a gay community in Croatia, with
the exception of a small bar in Zagreb, where he says police have harassed
patrons. Recent Gay Pride marches in Zagreb were met with violent
protestors, despite police barricades protecting a few hundred GLBT
marchers.
Yet, Drazoevic says things are improving, including gay travel groups,
websites, and a few television shows about gay life. Still, the
opportunity to meet more than 100 other gay and lesbian wrestlers would
never happen in his country.
"I am very happy that I will meet with so many wrestlers and gay
people, and that I can openly talk about gay life," says Drazoevic.
"It’s a nice feeling to be gay between gays."
Wrestling will take place July 17 at Northwestern University’s
Welsh-Ryan Arena, home of the prestigious Midlands Wrestling
Championships.
GGWC also provided an opportunity for Donna Rose, 36, of Phoenix, who
hadn’t wrestled for more than 20 years. "Wrestling has been
instrumental in other aspects of my life," says Rose. "I think
it creates an outlook on the world, and a sort of mental toughness."
Gay activists may know Rose for her work in transgender rights for the
Human Rights Campaign. Rose also published a book about her experience,
Wrapped in Blue, which describes her early life as a boy in upstate New
York, struggling with gender identity issues, and learning to wrestle in
school while dating girls.
"Even then, I was an overachiever," says Rose. "I
trained all year, not just during wrestling season. There were some brutal
practices." Like others who have struggled with issues of sexuality,
Rose says she excelled in athletics "to counter my own fears."
After a family move to Canada, Rose wrestled to a few championships in
the Maritime provinces in the 159 lb. weight class.
Since considering the idea of competing in Chicago, Rose attended
several tournaments and asked coaches, but faced a big obstacle. She had
no women to wrestle, and there were few men, straight or gay, who would or
could wrestle her.
She says some other transgendered people questioned whether she should
take part in such a traditionally "masculine" sport. "I buy
into a more holistic idea of being a person," Rose counters. "I’m
not buying into other people’s expectations."
While looking up gay clubs, Rose found out about GGWC’s 21st annual
tournament, held in San Francisco’s Castro district this past May.
There, she competed in a few exhibition matches with men in her weight
class (180 lbs.).
One of 45 wrestlers who visited from Los Angeles, New York, San Diego,
and Victoria, Canada, Rose says she appreciated the opportunity to try out
her sparring technique at practice sessions, and in the small yet
sanctioned tournament.
For Chicago, however, Rose hopes to find women to wrestle in her weight
class. Previously, fewer than a dozen competitors at each Gay Games have
been women.
Should no women sign up, she may once again have to compete in an
exhibition match with other men.
"I don’t want to be marginalized as a woman," says Rose,
who says she is grateful for the simple chance to compete. And she doesn’t
feel the need to identify as a transgender wrestler, but says that being
public brings more awareness to the work she does with HRC.
"I don’t feel compelled to lead with the T card," Rose
says. "But no one should limit themselves because of who they
are."
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