Gay Sports Scholarship Seeks Recipients
John Kiley and Gene Silbert (pictured at right) could be poster
children for gay men of a certain age. They met in a Greenwich Village bar
in 1953, and have been a couple ever since. Their careers—
Gene’s was in the textile business, working with some of the world’s
top fashion designers for women; John ran motivational incentive programs
for large corporations—took them around the globe, and gave them great
joy. Now, in the autumn of their lives, they want to pass along their
comfortable wealth to organizations that are important to them.
A ballet or opera company, maybe? Perhaps an AIDS group, or a political
cause?
Nope. The two men, both pushing 80, have created the Gene & John
Athletic Fund. They are offering generous scholarships to gay and lesbian
student-athletes who have contributed meaningfully to society.
And they’re finding that giving money to a relatively narrow niche of
the population is not an easy thing to do.
Kiley and Silbert’s interest in athletics came relatively late—not
surprising for gay men of their generation. When he was in his 40s, Kiley
began running—for fitness, personal fulfillment, and (he later realized)
camaraderie. Silbert became an avid athlete, too, accompanying his partner
on long runs throughout the world.
Kiley completed his first marathon at age 51, and went on to race-walk
at the 1990 Gay Games III in Vancouver. Silbert—who still runs—participated
then, too.
After a hip replacement, Kiley turned to swimming. He recently competed
in the International Gay and Lesbian Aquatics Championship in Paris. (He
downplays his gold medals, saying, "At 78, there’s not much
competition.")
"We’re not hugely wealthy, but we’ve had houses in the country
since 1969, and a place in Australia," Kiley said recently from his
home in New York. "We’re getting on in age, and our lawyer urged us
to work with a foundation to make sure our estate went where we wanted it
to. Running—including Frontrunners (the gay club) and the Gay Games—has
been good to us. We decided to work with the Stonewall Foundation (a New
York-based community organization) because it does so much, but had no
athletic programs in place."
Kiley and Silbert first tried to inaugurate a Gay and Lesbian Athletic
Hall of Fame, but were stymied because so few athletes were willing to
participate. "A lot of them just didn’t want their names associated
with this," Kiley said. "We tried to showcase what people had
done, but it was difficult to get it off the ground."
A second project is sponsoring sports programs for GLBT teenagers who
are in special schools or group homes. Silbert and Kiley are working with
organizations like New York’s Harvey Milk High School to organize
after-school activities for youngsters who, because of their sexuality,
may never have felt comfortable playing sports—or have actively been
discouraged from doing so.
"Gene and I got involved with the athletic community relatively
late," Kiley said. "Anything we can do to help young gay people
start earlier is important. The rewards are so important, and they last a
lifetime."
But the focus of their efforts has become the Gene & John Athletic
Fund of Stonewall Athletic Scholarship. Last year they gave $5,000 to
Shaun Sperling, a runner who also inspired and encouraged thousands of
people to complete a marathon that raised money for HIV/AIDS. Sperling, a
student at John Marshall School of Law who hopes to complete an Ironman
marathon, has been named one of Chicago’s Windy City Media Group’s
"30 Under 30" recipients, for his work with a variety of LGBT
organizations.
"There is no greater joy for me than to help others accomplish
something they never thought they could achieve, just as I have been
helped," Sperling said.
You would think giving away $5,000 would be a race-walk in the park,
but Silbert and Kiley have not been inundated with applicants for the 2007
prize. "Getting the word out has been a big hurdle," Kiley said.
"First of all, we’re targeting a very small market: People who are
gay, athletic, and have given something back to their community. We’ve
contacted universities, coaches, gay groups, and gay teams. We’ve posted
information on the Internet. But so far we’ve received very little
feedback."
As of late June, the Stonewall Foundation had received a dozen or so
completed forms. "That’s encouraging," Kiley said. "But
we want more." Applications are available at www.geneandjohnfoundation.org,
or by writing the Gene & John Athletic Fund of Stonewall, 119 West 24
Street, New York, NY 10011. The telephone number is 212-367-1155. The
deadline is July 31.
"Sports has really transformed us," Kiley concluded.
"Exercise has contributed to our healthy, productive lifestyle, and
the athletic community has brought additional texture to our lives. Our
objective is to give back to that community that has given so much to
us."