Spring Forward
Over the last two years, how many of us have been taking stock of our situation and hoping to improve the quality of our life? The COVID-19 pandemic seriously altered how many of us look at the world and our place in it. Maybe you asked yourself: How much do I want to work? How can I focus on what’s important to me? How can I manage my anxiety? There’s no better time than now to focus on your health and well-being.
At this point, I wouldn’t be surprised if you were rolling your eyes, thinking that improving your well-being is nearly impossible…like eradicating poverty, eliminating world hunger, or solving the New York Times crossword puzzle! Don’t give up; don’t freeze. Anything is possible with small steps.
The Global Wellness Institute defines wellness “…as the active pursuit of activities, choices, and lifestyles that lead to a state of holistic health.” This spring, my goal is that you identify at least one activity that contributes to a more fulfilling life. To get started, identify the source of your stress and anxiety. COVID? Ukraine? America’s culture wars? Don’t wallow in misery; just be aware of what is undermining your happiness. Now, consider positive strategies.
Excite your senses. Research shows that having an optimistic attitude is associated with fewer cardiac events, lower mortality rates, and increased longevity. I installed a free screensaver app for my computer that displays beautiful aerial views from the most extraordinary places on earth. (If you’re using a Mac: aerialscreensaver.github.io/.) Or maybe enliven your living space with a few sprigs of fresh lavender?
Touch and be touched. Too many of us have forgotten how simply holding hands or touching a friend’s shoulder can convey caring, love, and acceptance. Research shows that a body massage increases critical immune cells that help people fight diseases such as HIV or breast cancer. Human touch lowers our blood pressure while increasing our self-worth and connectedness with others. Learn more with the short TED talk, “The Power of Touch,” by Jane Anderson (easily found on YouTube).
Celebrate with community. This April, Women’s FEST returns to Rehoboth Beach with music, dancing, and an increasingly diverse program of activities that celebrate women’s talents, creativity, and zest for sisterhood. For years, Women’s FEST has provided opportunities for socializing with friends you didn’t even know you had. How about celebrating Lesbian Visibility Day (April 26) by listening to live music (where is Bev Morgan singing?) or meeting up with long-lost friends?
Exercise. Please, don’t skip over this paragraph! I know, I know; you tried, and it seems impossible. Take small steps. Walking and biking around town or on one of the many local trails are great ways to strengthen your heart, lose some weight, and improve your mood. Get out and see the natural beauty of our area. Exercise is more likely to be sustained if it is regularly scheduled; it also helps to have an exercise partner who shares in the fun and holds you accountable. Even simple exercises can increase flexibility, strength, and balance while enhancing sleep.
Declutter your space. Is your home in disarray? Surprisingly, a tidy house can lift your mood. Put on some energizing music and get started. Donate unneeded items and organize the rest. Don’t stop there. Adopt a houseplant to bring a little bit of nature back into your living space.
Learn something new. The University of Delaware’s Osher Lifelong Learning Institute (OLLI) is hosting its two-day “UD by the Sea” this May in Rehoboth Beach. You can learn more about Delaware coast life from local artists, gardeners, foreign policy experts, or historians.
Take a break from the news. Both TV and social media sites can increase your anxiety about the state of the world. Instead, search online for inspirational TED talks or travel videos that transport you to undersea coral reefs, the ruins at Ephesus, or the Appalachian Trail.
Join a book club. You can meet new friends and share rich discussions.
Manage your anger. Unbridled anger makes us defensive, self-righteous, and frankly, unattractive. Let it go. Be forgiving. You will find that people who smile and laugh more tend to attract others with their positive outlook.
Volunteer. Service to others bolsters our self-confidence, reduces isolation, and provides a renewed sense of purpose. Find dozens of local opportunities to volunteer your time and talents (volunteermatch.org).
Finally, be kind to yourself. Too many of us are quick to point out our own faults. We are less inclined to recognize our strengths. No one is perfect, yet any one of us can take steps towards a more authentic life. Look at your bucket list and commit to rewarding yourself with ticking off at least one item. Happy spring! ▼
Kevin Mallinson is a retired university professor, public speaker, and researcher who advocates for disenfranchised groups, particularly LGBTQ+ communities and persons with—or at risk for—HIV disease.