|by Sal Seeley
|Imaginations Run WILD!
I have been a way for a few days at school. It really was work related, even though my school is in San Francisco. San Francisco is so not Rehoboth!
While so much of my life is not routine when I am away, some things continue to be. One thing I do every morning is get up and drag my behind to the gym. San Francisco was no exception. The gym, however was amazing! Each morning after my workout, I went to the whirlpool and to the saunavery nice and very relaxing. So this past Monday, I do my routine and head to the sauna after an exceptional work out. Usually there is nobody there at 5:30 a.m. This day was no exception. I am sitting there relaxing and in walks this man who sits down across the room from me. He says hello. I say hello. Then he says to me "You have such a nice bubble butt." I was astounded but flattered...I do have a nice one. He continued to converse with me from across the room. It was difficult. He was a very cute, intact man, with big muscles, a shaved head and a nice goatee...exactly what I had in mind. I had to remind him to stay on his side of the room because this was a public place. While what he wanted to do was quite safe, I wasn't about to do it in public, and I had to go to school! Darn it all! But while I didn't have my usual safe sex supplies around, I had the safest one with me right there. He did too! We had our imaginations! We never even got close to each other or even did anything inappropriate but we had a great time.
Safe Sex Sal, says, "You can do the unsafest things in your imagination and they are always safe if that is where they stay!" Fantasies are good things. We all have them. We can control and manipulate them. In our fantasies, things always work the way we want them and even the most unwilling participant will do exactly what we want. Use your imagination. It is safe and it is fun! Nothing happened in the sauna that morning in actuality but if you could only see into my imagination! Since the event, it has even gotten more interesting...several times!
Fantasies can be fun to share. I have shared mine with a few buddies and they enjoyed it too! ALL VERY SAFELY! Talk about your fantasies with your partners. If you want, make some of them happen. I usually find that the fantasies never materialize very well but they can truly enrich your life. If you choose to make them happen in reality, don't forget to be safe. SAFETY has to be in your reality!
I can help you make safety a reality for you. Come and see me. If your fantasies have gotten out of hand and become reality, I can help you seek testing. Come see me. I am not a fantasy HIV prevention specialist, I am real. Let me show you how to bring safety into your reality!
Sal Seeley is Program Director of CAMPsafe, an HIV/AIDS program funded through a contract with the Delaware Division of Public Health.
LETTERS From CAMP Rehoboth, Vol. 15, No. 9 July 15, 2005