August 08, 2008 - The OUTfield

LETTERS From CAMP Rehoboth

The OUTfield

One day seven years ago, Kerri Heffernan went for a run. Her path took her past an athletic field in Providence, Rhode Island, where the Brown University women's rugby team was training.

Heffernanwho, prior to becoming associate director of Brown's Howard R. Swearer Center for Public Service, had been an international level rugby playerwas appalled at how poorly the Brown squad played. She offered to help.

Today, she is the club team's head coach. Under her leadership, they have qualified for three national championships; this spring, they reached the Final Four. Heffernan has coached three All-Americans and four national team players. Along the way, she has seen some stereotypes shatteredand others reinforcedabout a sport whose players have long been viewed as the poster children for lesbian athletes.

"Historically, women's rugby has been extremely lesbian-friendly," Heffernan admits. "Today, though, it's a lot more mainstream."

Heffernan grew up running track. But she became disenchanted with the program at Florida State University, and as an undergraduate in the late 1970s gravitated to rugby. "It was a wonderful environment for serious athletes," she recalls. "The women who coached us were good teachers, and very patient. They helped us fall in love with the sport."

After graduation, Heffernan moved to Houston and Boston to play with top teams. She competed for 10 years, including internationally, and had "a great ride."

Still, she says, "when I played, tournaments could be horrific. The men wore nasty T-shirts, and there was lots of drinking." That was one way, she adds, by which men tried to keep women out of what they considered to be their own very macho sport.

Times have changed. Many of those men now have daughters, and fathers have encouraged their girls to play rugby. As dads have been involved in youth leagues, and as their daughters keep playing in high school and college, "they're less likely to dismiss female players as 'a bunch of dykes,'" Heffernan says. "The game is being taken very seriously, and it's attracting plenty of great athletes."

At Brown, as at other schools, women's rugby appeals to many former lacrosse and soccer players who are "looking for something differentnot a lock-step experience," Heffernan says. What they find is "a subculture in which people are fine with a vast variety of differences. There's something very heroic about playing rugby. If you can hit hard and protect your teammate, you're embraced. That leads to a great acceptance of all the women who play it."

Acceptance extends to sexuality. Heffernan notes: "I played with the pioneers of the game. At that time, women were more out in rugby than other sports. Rugby was welcoming to butch women. And straight players were wonderful allies."

That embrace of lesbians still exists to a certain degree, Heffernan says. However, as the sport has explodedaccording to Heffernan, approximately 500 colleges field women's rugby teams at the Division I level it has attracted women for reasons beyond its embrace of sexuality differences.

Yet, a certain sensibility remains. Like many programs, Brown's is very social. From the first events on, "newcomers get clued in" to the accepting atmosphere, Heffernan says. "I don't have to say anything."

Her out-ness helps. Heffernan's partner and children attend many events. The coach introduces her family to players' parents. "For some people, that may be very challenging," Heffernan admits. "But it makes a huge difference to all our players, gay and straight."

Two years ago, the Brown team traveled to Uganda, where they played various clubs. "The gay players there quickly connected with our lesbians," Heffernan says. "It was really poignant and exciting to see. The fact that rugby facilitated that connection was fascinating."

Afterwards, she and her players had intense conversations about the freedom Americans feel to be out, in contrast to Africans, for whom the dangers of visibility are enormous.

Heffernan is looking for a certain type of player, and it has nothing to do with sexuality. "I pay attention to the ability to focus," she says. "Rugby is an intellectually challenging sport. There are a ton of rulesmany of them counterintuitiveand you have to really concentrate on them, knowing at the same time you're about to be hit."

She also looks for physical skills, including good footwork. "It's not just about finding big girls anymore," she says. "We never cutthere's a spot for everyone in the Brown rugby programand size is no longer the main criterion."

Many Brown athletes did not grow up playing contact sports. "Hitting someone is very intimate, and at the same time very liberating," Heffernan explains. "Some women feel very empowered by that."

Dan Woog is a journalist, educator, soccer coach, gay activist, and author of the "Jocks" series of books on gay male athletes. Email him at OutField@qsyndicate.com.

LETTERS From CAMP Rehoboth, Vol. 18, No. 11 August 08, 2008